Raising Confident or Arrogant Children?
Philip T. Yanos reviewed Mirror, Mirror: The Uses and Abuses of Self-Love by Simon Blackburn. In reading this review, I was reminded of all the ways in which psychologists examine self-love. There are thousands of studies on self-esteem, narcissism (as a personality trait and as part of a psychological disorder), egocentricity, actor-observer biases, and self-serving biases just to name a few of the self-love incarnations.
To this day, Tony Greenwald's (1980) "Totalitarian Ego" article in American Psychologist is one of my favorites on this topic. Yanos's review suggests an important question—How do we raise our children to have a healthy self-esteem without raising them to be arrogant and insensitive to others? What one or two recommendations would you give parents and other adults who work with youths (e.g., teachers, coaches) to help achieve this goal?
By Philip T. Yanos
PsycCRITIQUES, 2015 Vol 60(20)